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Gratitude Letter / Visit

social · medium · 1-2 hours/month

What is Gratitude Letter / Visit?

Writing a detailed letter of gratitude to someone who has positively impacted your life, then (ideally) reading it to them in person. Martin Seligman's research shows this is the single most effective positive psychology exercise, producing happiness boosts lasting up to a month.

Is there evidence for it?

EVIDENCEstrong

How do you do Gratitude Letter / Visit?

  1. 1.Choose someone who made a significant positive difference in your life that you've never properly thanked
  2. 2.Write a detailed 300+ word letter: describe what they did, how it affected you, and where you are now because of them
  3. 3.If possible, arrange to visit them and read the letter aloud — the in-person delivery amplifies the effect dramatically
  4. 4.If visiting isn't possible, send the letter by mail (not email) or read it over a video call
  5. 5.Aim to write one gratitude letter per month — the practice gets easier and more natural with repetition

How long does it take?

1-2 hours/month.

Is it hard to start?

medium.

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Source: Martin Seligman (Authentic Happiness); Seligman et al. (2005) study showed effects lasting 1+ month; positive psychology foundational exercise
gratitude · positive-psychology · relationships · meaning · wellbeing
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