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Mark Manson Subtle Art of Values Clarification

emotional · medium · 30 minutes for the exercise, ongoing for alignment

What is Mark Manson Subtle Art of Values Clarification?

Most self-help tells you to be positive. Manson says the opposite: choose your struggles wisely. The question isn't 'What do you want?' — it's 'What pain are you willing to sustain?' Your values are revealed by what you'll suffer for.

Is there evidence for it?

EVIDENCEmoderate

How do you do Mark Manson Subtle Art of Values Clarification?

  1. 1.Ask yourself: 'What pain am I willing to tolerate?' If you want a great body but won't tolerate the gym — fitness isn't actually your value
  2. 2.List your top 5 values by completing: 'I would endure _____ in order to have/be _____'. Example: 'I would endure rejection to have creative work out in the world'
  3. 3.Audit your current life against these values. Where are you spending time on things you don't value? Where are you avoiding the struggle of things you do value?
  4. 4.Accept your limitations: you can't have everything, and saying yes to one value means saying no to others. That's not failure — that's clarity
  5. 5.Redesign one area of your life this week to align with a core value. Even small alignment reduces existential anxiety dramatically

How long does it take?

30 minutes for the exercise, ongoing for alignment.

Is it hard to start?

medium.

Source: Mark Manson (The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck)
emotional · motivation · confidence · stress · habits
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