< shift/library / social

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

social · hard · Integrated into daily communication; 30 min/week for study and practice

What is Nonviolent Communication (NVC)?

A four-step communication framework — Observation, Feeling, Need, Request — designed to express yourself honestly and hear others empathically without triggering defensiveness.

Is there evidence for it?

EVIDENCEmoderate

How do you do Nonviolent Communication (NVC)?

  1. 1.Observation: state what you observed factually, without evaluation ('When I see/hear X...')
  2. 2.Feeling: name the emotion you experienced ('I feel...' — use actual emotions, not thoughts disguised as feelings)
  3. 3.Need: identify the universal human need behind the feeling ('Because I need...')
  4. 4.Request: make a concrete, actionable request — not a demand ('Would you be willing to...?')
  5. 5.Practice the full sequence in low-stakes conversations before using in conflicts

How long does it take?

Integrated into daily communication; 30 min/week for study and practice.

Is it hard to start?

hard.

Source: Marshall Rosenberg (Nonviolent Communication, 1960s-2003). Used in federally funded school integration projects. Satya Nadella required Microsoft executives to read the book (2014). Center for NVC has trainers in 60+ countries.
communication · empathy · conflict-resolution · needs · feelings · relationships
> find what fits you

Related in social

Boundary Scripts (How to Say No Without Guilt)Use pre-prepared scripts to set boundaries clearly and kindly. Boundaries aren't about being harsh — they're...Gratitude Letter / VisitWriting a detailed letter of gratitude to someone who has positively impacted your life, then (ideally)...Active Listening PracticeDeliberately practicing full attention and empathetic engagement during conversations. Strengthens...Vulnerability PracticeDeliberately sharing your authentic feelings, uncertainties, and imperfections with trusted others. Contrary...Appreciation Practice (5:1 Ratio)Maintain a 5-to-1 ratio of positive to negative interactions in your key relationships. Research by Dr. John...Micro-Acts of Kindness ProtocolA structured practice of performing small, deliberate acts of kindness for others, which produces measurable...

> everything in social

This is one entry from the library Shift matches against. It is general information, not advice about you, and nothing on this page came from anyone's conversation.