Relationship Audit (Annual Review)

What is Relationship Audit (Annual Review)?

An annual structured reflection on the state of your relationship, inspired by business annual reviews and adapted by couples therapists. Partners independently complete a relationship inventory covering key domains (intimacy, communication, fun, growth, conflict, dreams) then compare notes in a facilitated conversation. Research shows couples who regularly assess their relationship catch small issues before they become crises.

Is there evidence for it?

How do you do Relationship Audit (Annual Review)?

1. 1.Schedule a 2-3 hour block annually (anniversary or New Year) in a relaxed, neutral setting
2. 2.Each partner independently rates these domains 1-10: emotional intimacy, physical intimacy, communication, fun/adventure, shared goals, individual growth, conflict resolution
3. 3.Share your ratings — focus on understanding gaps between your scores rather than debating who's right
4. 4.For each domain scored below 7, brainstorm one specific action for the coming year
5. 5.Write a one-page 'Relationship State of the Union' together and revisit it quarterly

How long does it take?

2-3 hours annually + quarterly 30-min check-ins.

Is it hard to start?

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