Attachment Style Mapping Protocol

What is Attachment Style Mapping Protocol?

Based on Amir Levine and Rachel Heller's work in 'Attached,' this protocol helps you identify your attachment style (secure, anxious, or avoidant) and your partner's, then use that knowledge to break destructive cycles. The anxious-avoidant trap — where one partner's need for closeness triggers the other's need for distance — accounts for the majority of chronic relationship conflicts.

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How do you do Attachment Style Mapping Protocol?

1. 1.Take a validated attachment style quiz (e.g., ECR-R questionnaire) — both partners independently
2. 2.Learn your style's protest behaviors: anxious people call repeatedly and seek reassurance; avoidant people withdraw and minimize feelings
3. 3.Map your relationship's typical conflict cycle: who pursues, who withdraws, and what triggers each
4. 4.Create style-aware agreements: anxious partners commit to self-soothing before seeking reassurance; avoidant partners commit to naming their need for space instead of silently withdrawing
5. 5.Practice 'earned security' — regardless of your attachment style, you can develop secure behaviors through intentional practice and awareness

How long does it take?

1-2 hours initial mapping, then ongoing awareness.

Is it hard to start?

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