Couples Gottman Date Night Questions

What is Couples Gottman Date Night Questions?

Based on Gottman's research: couples who maintain 'love maps' (deep knowledge of each other's inner world) stay together. Use these research-backed questions weekly to keep learning about each other instead of assuming you already know.

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How do you do Couples Gottman Date Night Questions?

1. 1.Schedule a weekly 'date night' (can be at home after kids sleep). Put phones away. Open a bottle of wine or make tea
2. 2.Take turns asking and answering from Gottman's question categories: dreams ('What's something you've always wanted to try?'), fears ('What are you most worried about right now?'), memories ('What's your happiest memory of us?'), future ('Where do you see us in 5 years?')
3. 3.The rules: listen without fixing, don't judge, follow up with curiosity. The goal is UNDERSTANDING, not problem-solving
4. 4.For conflict: use the 'soft startup' — start with 'I feel...' not 'You always...'. Gottman can predict divorce with 93% accuracy based on how conversations begin
5. 5.Use the Gottman Card Decks app — 1000+ questions organized by category. Pull one card per night for easy, low-pressure connection

How long does it take?

30-60 minutes per week.

Is it hard to start?

easy.

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