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Love Languages Practice

relationships · easy · 15-30 min/day

What is Love Languages Practice?

Identifying and consistently speaking your partner's primary love language (words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch) to fill their emotional 'love tank.'

Is there evidence for it?

EVIDENCEmoderate

How do you do Love Languages Practice?

  1. 1.Both partners take the free Love Languages quiz at 5lovelanguages.com to identify your primary and secondary languages
  2. 2.For one week, consciously express love in your partner's primary language daily: write a note (words), plan undivided-attention time (quality time), do a chore they dislike (acts), give a small thoughtful gift (gifts), or increase physical affection (touch)
  3. 3.Establish a daily sharing ritual: sit together for 10 minutes and each share 3 things that happened today and how you felt about them
  4. 4.Track your efforts in a simple journal for 30 days to build the habit of 'speaking' in their language rather than defaulting to your own
  5. 5.Revisit the quiz every 6-12 months as love languages can shift with life stages

How long does it take?

15-30 min/day.

Is it hard to start?

easy.

Source: Dr. Gary Chapman; 'The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts' (1992); over 20 million copies sold
love-languages · relationships · communication · emotional-needs · couples · gary-chapman
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